Saturday, 7 June 2014

Don't Need Him



Okay, so I saw this post on facebook the other day and had only one thing in mind 'This person is one bloody happy soul'. No, really. When you see all those lovey dovey couples, either on social sites or in real life, it's natural to get envious. Or nauseous.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not against love. But do I really need say it out loud whether ALL these couples are really 'in love'?  Or even happy? No sweeties, of course not. Being taken does not mean being happy. It only means you're sharing your life with someone who can kiss you anytime without you slapping them in return.
Did you laugh at that? You didn't? Sorry, but all this is coming from a girl who's been single for the sixteen years of her life. And spent fifteen of these years thinking she wasn't good enough for anyone out there. But lately I've realised that you don't need to be 'good enough' to be in love. That would, in fact, set a bar as to who can fall in love and who cannot. And, trust me, you are already good enough, absolutely perfect the way you are. If a guy (or a girl) can't accept the way you are, or should I put it as, someone who'd like to change you, well, let's say, they don't deserve you. At all.
Even though I like the image above, I also believe that if you're truly happy being single, you don't have to announce it like that. Your true self doesn't need declarations.
This is a request to all those single birdies out there. Please, please don't be miserable just because you don't have a partner. It's much better to wait than to get into a shitty relationship. Those who've already suffered this fate and are now alone, would hopefully understand. No matter how lonely or helpless you feel at times, it's much better not to have someone by your side who'll only make it worse.


Tuesday, 3 June 2014

Low self esteem? No Way!!

Sometimes I just sit still, completely still, and look around myself. I observe and mentally point out all things and people that make me happy in anyway. Weird, I know. But this simple trick really helps when I feel sad or miserable, which I do quite often, trust me. Not like I'm a sulky, pathetic, self pitying teen who doesn't chortle or giggle or crack stupid jokes. It's just that some days I feel real helpless, misunderstood, neglected, and, well, all things an average adolescent feels while terribly upset. There are moments when I wish my parents would just listen to me. Moments when I wish my teachers would give me more credit than they give to my nerdy bench mate. Moments when I wish that the cute guy in my coaching centre would notice me some day. Moments when I wish that I had a bigger book collection than my best friend. Moments when I wish that I looked prettier. Moments when I wish I was simply.... better.






But there are also moments when I feel that my life is NOT a completely downhill road. Moments when my parents hug me and say they're proud of me. Moments when my teachers get the whole class, including my nerdy bench mate, applauding for me because my assignment was one of the best ones. Moments when that topper guy ignores the pretty bitch in the coaching centre and tallies all his exercise answers with me. Moments when my best friend writes an essay about me in an essay competition. Moments when my neighbour compliments me on my sense of humor. Moments when I simply feel the best.